I definitely have a profile (My "architect" profile) that I use for testing my SS mods and making settlement blueprints where I've disabled virtually non-SS mods and it has never crashed on me once. So I know my bloated modlist is the culprit, it's just figuring out what to amputate that's the problem. Maybe I do just need to go back to basics and have a playthrough that is only mods in the SimSettlements constellation plus settlement tweaks like Creative Clutter and then finish my "ultrabasic" overhaul that just does the bullet points above. It's hard not to mod it until it breaks, though. Especially with so much amazing content out there that I haven't even played - stuff like the Thuggyverse.
Oh, given the criteria. I don’t know of any AIO.
I think some of the below are possible candidates on an individual bases?
I just picked ones I thought were light weight, fun, or had a good impact to the game.
About all I can say from my experience is they play nice with SS.
I would start with the GCM - Game Configuration Menu then mod what you can’t get otherwise?
If you want heaver suggestions that is almost easier. As is I kept it light.
Yagisan_SSSL_Lakeside_Cabin_Settlement.esl
WorldlyWeaponMaterials.esl
AORobcoReconScope.esl
GraveDigger.esl I belive in mortal - Graveyards are immersive
GraveDigger - Gravestones.esl I belive in mortal - Graveyards are immersive
GraveDigger - Skeleton Patch.esl I belive in mortal - Graveyards are immersive
GraveDiggerVIS.esl I belive in mortal - Graveyards are immersive
StandaloneWorkbenches.esl
ScrapMachine.esl
JP_GuardTowers.esl
YouAndWhatArmy.esl
RRTV_Acadia_Survival_Tweaks.esl
Scopes.esp
EsturkDogMeat_Skins.esp
Bricks Concrete and Wood sidings HD.esp
HN66Fo4_MOONSIZE.esp
CombatRiflePolishedwShotgun.esp
CreationClubDelay.esp
woodysWastelandStuff.esp
RealTroughs.esp
BuildableBurningCampfires.esp
GrafsSecurityFences.esp
GroundedWR.esp
HamedSimKhardar.esp
WhirligigRadarStation.esp
Sandbag Fortifications - Version 2C.esp
Vending Machines - Lighting.esp
Immersive Wasteland Grass.esp
RadiantBirdsv05.esp
Reverb and Ambiance Overhaul.esp
Ambient Wasteland.esp
Better Settlement Defence.esp
Combatrifle_Extend.esp
ZXCamouflageFatigues.esp
AssaultRifleOverhaul.esp
JLS Minigun Suite.esp
General Atomics Galleria - Settlement.esp
CleanishGalleria.esp
HAIA With Crafting.esp
InsideJobs.esp
Crows&Creatures_V1.esp
SuperMutantRedux.esp
Raider Gang Extended NPC.esp more Bosses to fight
3DNPC_FO4Settler.esp
ConceptCentaur.esp
DCMolerats.esp
More Realistic Cats.esp
Floaters.esp
Famished.esp
WheelMenu.esp
Radrose Gameplay Enhancements.esp
ModdableRobotSettlers.esp
Pip2000MkVi_Replacer.esp
AutomatronWheelLegs.esp
LString_Bow.esp
Wana_SA58.esp
RangemasterRemaster.esp
LeeEnfieldNo4MkI.esp
SG550.esp
ASH127.esp
P220.esp
G3Family.esp
RussianAssaultPack.esp
GS Lever Action Shotgun.esp
Saya_lsstring_VWAS.esp
RoundGlasses.esp
TTOutfit.esp
GunmetalArmorSkins-ArmyFatigues.esp
Gunmetal-Clothing-Variaty.esp
Crimsomrider's Accessories.esp
ToughGirlAttire.esp
FemsheppingsLastOutfitPack.esp
SimSettlements_Addon_FrankTownVRonTown.esp
SimSConqAtomsGlory.esp
AtomsGloryThreads.esp
RegsPrefabs.esp
CWSS Redux.esp
MoreRobotVoices.esp
whisperCraftingRearranged.esp
CraftingFramework.esp
SKKAmmoOMatic.esp
CMRQL.esp
GCM - Game Configuration Menu
Change workshop wire length
Change damage given
Change damage recived
Nurf Experience from "crafting and whatnot"
Plus a ton of other stuff.
Raze My Settlement.esp
Clean and Simple - Bunker Hill Startup.esp
Rayburn Point [Settlement].esp
Breakheart Banks - Settlement.esp XV authored version
Hangmans Alley Optimized.esp
FO4 NPCs Travel.esp
GoodneighborExpanded.esp
Better Explosives Redux.esp
Mors Shortcut to Curie.esp
Ada2Human.esp
BetterCompanions.esp
Wasteland Heroines Replacer All in One_1.0.0.esp
Dogmeat A True Companion Normal.esp
EFF.esp One is not enough
PiperCaitCurieDialogueOverhaul.esp
Better Cooking Stations.esp
Yagisan_WO_Better_Caravans.esp
Hangmans Alley Optimized - HAIA With Crafting - Patch.esp